Ephesians 5:15-16 Amplified Bible
Look carefully then how you walk! Live purposefully and worthily and accurately, not as the unwise and witless, but as wise (sensible, intelligent people), making the very most of the time [buying up each opportunity], because the days are evil.
“Loss of romance” is not synonymous with being “loveless.” There is more to love than romance. “Soul mates” are made and not a happenstance. My own marriage of more than 10 years had reached a point where romance had faded. We had tried everything including counselling but the marriage had become an unsatisfying hassle and we both felt empty, unloved, and defeated. I long debated getting out or sticking out our commitment in resignation. A third choice occurred to me, which is what so many miss. That’s to give one more shot but focusing on the positives and desires and acceptance rather than the faults and frustrations. I didn’t have much hope but the change began to make a difference and after a while even romance and passion returned and grew. Now another 20 years and a few more challenges later, we honestly agree that our relationship is better and stronger than ever. We couldn’t have gotten here though without first going through there. Most, if not all, relationships have some good points and are probably not totally loveless. Love is a choice and can grow through choosing to love through the “loveless” times. You can’t know it until you’ve tried it—but it’s worth it.
There are so many temptations and distractions in the world, all ready to destroy marriages. In this day and age we need to be aware of the dangers and purposefully avoid them. In addition to avoiding dangers, we need to focus on doing what is right in our marriages. We need to fight to keep our love alive. Choose to love through the “loveless” times.