James 1:19 Amplified Bible
Understand this, my beloved brethren. Let every man be quick to hear (a ready listener), slow to speak, slow to take offence and to get angry.
Author‐counsellors Chuck and Barb Snyder recommend a “quick listening” technique based on this verse. Following a disagreement, a husband and wife sit down together and fully explain their feelings about the issue. The catch is that the other spouse can’t interrupt. Partners may try this and still disagree, but by giving their opinion and listening to their mate’s, they’ll increase their chances of understanding each other . . . and of staying best friends.
Dr. James Dobson
Good listeners practice the following habits:
- They look into their spouse’s eyes when they are spoken to.
- They know that they don’t have to fix anything. They simply listen.
- They try their best to understand and empathize.
Recommended resource: 21st Century Marriage by Rob Parsons