Conflict management in marriage

1 Peter 3:11 (Amplified Bible)
Let him turn away from wickedness and shun it, and let him do right. Let him search for peace (harmony; undisturbedness from fears, agitating passions, and moral conflicts) and seek it eagerly. [Do not merely desire peaceful relations with God, with your fellow men, and with yourself, but pursue, go after them!]

Some form of conflict exists in every marriage. Even if it is merely a difference in opinion. Here are some thoughts to keep in mind when dealing with conflict:

1. Remember that we’re all different. You and your spouse will disagree about some things. It is a normal part of life.

2. Let your spouse know how you are feeling. If your spouse has done something that upset you, tell them! You don’t have to have an argument, simply say something like: “Honey, remember that thing that you did this morning… I didn’t like it. It made me feel disrespected.”

3. Don’t Let things fester. Speak about it, forgive and forget. Don’t go to bed angry.

4. Winning the argument is not important. Peace is important. Never attack the person, rather start with “I… “

5. Let go of the past. Don’t use things that have been dealt with in the past against your spouse.

 imperfect person

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