Philippians 2:3 Amplified Bible
Do nothing from factional motives [through contentiousness, strife, selfishness, or for unworthy ends] or prompted by conceit and empty arrogance. Instead, in the true spirit of humility (lowliness of mind) let each regard the others as better than and superior to himself [thinking more highly of one another than you do of yourselves].
Stop for a moment and consider your motives in the context of your marriage:
- Do you serve your spouse from a heart of love?
- Do you have genuine respect for your spouse?
- Are your actions geared toward the growth and success of your marriage?
Couples in crisis, Michelle Weiner Davis advises, should bring a beginner’s mind to the process of trying to save their relationship. “I want people to start with a clean slate because they have a lot of misconceptions about marriage and how people change and whether people can change,” she said. “There’s this myth that you need two people actively working on a marriage, when at least 50 to 60 percent of my practice involves working with one person. The reality is that if one person changes how he or she approaches his or her spouse, the relationship changes. You can change a relationship, but you have to start by changing your own behavior.”
From article, Divorce is No Democracy”
by Mark Wolf, News Staff Writer